Monday, June 17, 2013

Christian Cliches Can Drive You Crazy

Here is a nice little reflection written by a church member and friend Gordon Pierce

I imagine many of you have had something similar to this happen to you. You life or a family member is in a troubling time. There has been some kind of disaster in your life, and you are not in a place you wish it to be. Then a well-meaning Christian crosses your path. They say to you something like “Trust God”, “Have Faith”, “Keep the Faith”, or “Pray about it.” “What?” you ask to yourself.  These people are probably trying to comfort you by saying these cliches. They do not realize there really isn’t much comfort in these words.

Perhaps in these same bad times you may hear a sermon that makes similar assertions. Its subject is about Trusting God, Having Faith, or Prayer. The result of the sermon is for you are about the same as what was said to you, not much help for the state you are in.

I remember very distinctly hearing a sermon some years ago that was based on the eleventh chapter of Hebrews. The eleventh chapter of Hebrews is commonly known as the “Faith” chapter. The Pastor used several examples of people of faith identified in this chapter as a basis for his message. The “Who,” “What,” and “Why” were well explained. The “How” was sadly missing.

For example Abraham had faith that God would resurrect his son, this is why he took Isaac out into the wilderness to sacrifice him as an offering to God. Abraham was stopped in the procedure. God provided a Ram as a substitute sacrifice for Isaac. The pastor mentioned a few other examples of people with faith. Throughout the message, however, I kept asking under my breath “How?” How did Abraham have the faith enough to trust God when he was asked to sacrifice Isaac?

How do we get so that we trust God? We wrestle with trusting God because He is invisible. We can not verify his existence by sight. He normally (?) does not speak to us in a human sounding voice or any voice at all for that matter. He does not leave us sticky note sheets with instructions written on them. Problems exist for us increasing our faith. When I hear someone’s personal faith being questioned or my personal faith, I think about when I was a second grade student. I had to stay after school a few times. It seems I had a propensity to chat. Often, I was told to stay after school because of my behavior. I was then given a chore. I had to write, “I will not talk in class” 100 times on a large blackboard. Now to change my behavior regarding faith, can I increase my faith by writing “my faith must increase” on a blackboard 100 times? Somehow I do not see this working well. 

As you can see, there is a trend by Pastors and well meaning Christians to attempt to encourage us in our Christian walk by giving repeated cliches. But, the “How” seems to always be missing. So how does one learn how to trust God or how to grow in faith? I do not suggest that I possess a rock solid answer to this question. Neither can I offer a spiritual pill that will help you in these spiritual arenas.
My personal experience wrestling with trust, faith, and prayer has been one of frustration. However, I have come to a partial answer for getting better at them. Reading scripture is key. Often while reading the scriptures something stands out that will make my “a-ha light” go on in my mind. The text in the Bible seems to be double sized and in bold as I read it. It is at these moments I come closer to trusting God, having my faith grow, and seeing the necessity of prayer. The Gospels and the epistles seem to hold a lot of those “a-ha” moments for me. The Books of Psalms and Proverbs may also help. I am not 100% at peace with these terms yet, but I am a work in progress.

Prayer is an area in a Christian’s life in which faith in God may be realized. Again, I do not offer a “Do this” answer to the question “How do I pray?” I only know that it works.

Some years ago I was attending a small church where the pastor did all of the preaching, adult Bible teaching, music leading and a myriad of other things. On Wednesday evenings the church held a prayer meeting. The pastor announced that he was about to have an operation. He would be recovering for a few weeks and would miss church for a time. He had a procured substitute pastor to take care of the preaching. He did not have anyone to lead the adult Bible study held Sunday mornings before service. He asked Prayer meeting attendees if anyone could take this duty. The next thing I knew my right hand when up and I thought; “Pierce, what the heck are you doing? You do not know anything about teaching the Bible.” I felt like taking my left hand and pulling my right arm down. It seemed to be stuck straight up. Too late, I was spotted. I was thanked for taking this responsibility. I told the pastor he was “welcome” and I wondered “What in the world am I to do?” He said I would be needed in the role as the adult class leader in two weeks. After the prayer meeting he offered some advice on how to prepare and deliver the study. His statements were found as a small comfort for me. What was I to do? Suddenly I remembered I enjoyed listening to Dr. John MacArthur teaching through the book of Daniel on WARV Christian radio a few years ago. “I will teach from the Book of Daniel.” There was a lot of reading of the Bible and several Bible commentaries for the next ten days. The night before I was to lead the first class I had a panic attack. Debbie and the boys were out of the house for a reason I now forget so I went into our bedroom and got down on my knees. My prayer went something like this. “Lord please give me a cold or laryngitis so I can not speak. Debbie will have to call the church to tell them I can not teach the class in the morning.” This type of rhetoric went on for quite a while. Finally as I was about to wrap up my prayer I heard in a wee small voice deep in my head say “My grace is sufficient for thee…” (2 Corinthians 12:9). A wave of comfort came over me. I taught the adult Bible class for the next three years. God does answer prayer. This is just one of many examples I could give from my personal prayer experiences.

We can Trust God. We can grow in Faith. We can learn to pray more effectively, but there is no magic “How?” It is by spending time looking for God in His word and in prayer.

I am afraid I have heard many sermons that do not explain the “How.” Isn’t the “How” the answer we all need. Below I have included a few Bible verses that can help the person wishing to address the issues touched on in this essay.

Finally an observation, totally unrelated, Abraham must have been one strong old man. Have you ever attempted to grab a goat? It is no easy task. A ram is a much larger and stronger animal. Hats off to Abraham.

Hebrews 11:6

John 6:44


Ephesians 2:8 (Key verse)

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